A Story From When I Wasn’t So Healthy & Happy

“I think it’s important to tell it. Maybe it will help educate or inspire other people so they too can do something, they too can make a contribution.”
A quote from Senator John Lewis in the Times magazine about why he told the story of the civil rights movement over and over again.

Hello dearies,

I wanted to share a story with you today about transformation, inspired by Senator John Lewis.

Most of my current clients and students see me as a healthy, happy coach and teacher. Happily married and loving life. No challenges, right?

Well, it hasn’t always been this way. Steve and I have been happily married for over 35 years. Amazing to acknowledge that! We give thanks every day for our connection, friendship and enduring love.

I had two marriages before Steve and I found each other. My starter marriage, as I now call it, was at age 19 because I didn’t know what else to do. I married a man several years older than I was and went along with his career and his life until he wanted children and I did not.

Looking back at myself at twenty years old, I am truly amazed that I had the wisdom to end that relationship. It wasn’t acrimonious at all. I was sad and frightened to be alone and I launched myself out into the world alone.

Within one year I met and married my second husband. This time I was in love and we were much more compatible. We had both grown up with alcoholic parents and were very well trained to take care of each other. We communicated well and navigated moving from California to Minnesota and back again for job transfers.

Eventually it became clear that we were not meant to continue the relationship. We parted with tears and wishing each other well. Gratefully he met the love of his life and I met the love of my life.

I am grateful that I had the courage to release and let go of what wasn’t working. It was indeed scary and challenging and confusing at the time. And now I am much more confident in my capacity for growth and change.