Where Are You Holding On & Refusing To Forgive?

“We need to choose to release the past and forgive everyone, ourselves included. We may not know how to forgive,

and we may not want to forgive, but the very fact that

we say we are willing to forgive begins the healing process.”

Louise L. Hay – You Can Heal Your Life

Hello dearies,

This week I was introduced to a Forgiveness Process by Vishen Lakhiani from MindValley that leads to clearer intuition, connection, guidance and mind/heart coherence.

  1. Identify a person or act to forgive – someone you genuinely love and care for – including your younger self.
  2. Create a safe and healing space in your imagination with that person.
  3. Communicate to them the circumstances that occurred.
  4. Allow yourself to feel the deep pain/anger/frustration fully for two minutes.
  5. Think deeply about what your have learned from this person or event.
  6. Explore how the what the other person may have experienced.
  7. See the circumstances from the other person’s view.
  8. Finally, forgive into love and imagine hugging the person.

Ho’oponopono – Hawaiian Healing Prayer

That got me thinking about one of my very favorite forgiveness practices: Ho’oponopono – “I love you, please forgive me, I’m sorry, thank you.”

There is an inspiring story told about Dr. Len, a psychologist who healed an entire hospital filled with patients by praying this prayer every day.

I’ve used this myself, especially when I’ve felt a deep loss of connection with a loved one. Something shifts in our hearts when we pray this prayer. Link to YouTube Chant

You Can Heal Your Life by Louise L. Hay

And one of my oldest and most beloved practices from Louise Hay’s book (she credits Emmet Fox).

  1. Settle yourself down and allow your mind and body to relax.
  2. Imagine you are sitting in a darkened theater with a small stage.
  3. Picture someone you would like to forgive up on the stage.
  4. Visualize good things happening to them, see them smiling and happy.
  5. Hold this image for a few minutes and allow it to fade away.
  6. Finally, visualize good things happening to you – see and feel yourself smiling and happy.
  7. You may repeat this process once a day with different people and notice how much lighter you feel. Enjoy!

Personal Peace Process with EFT

This process was developed by the founder of EFT, Gary Craig.

  1. Make a time line of your life in segments, i.e. zero to five, six to ten years old, etc.
  2. List the troublesome or painful events as a stream of consciousness – simply write down everything as it arises.
  3. Set aside a few minutes each day to tap on one of these items, for example: “Even though my brother stole parts off of my bicycle to repair his bike, I honor and accept all of my feelings.” Tap around as you acknowledge the memory and the emotions until you feel relief.
  4. Add anything new to the list that arises as you are tapping.
  5. End each daily session with Gratitude Tapping or Happy Tapping: “I am so grateful for the healing… I’m ready to let this go… I am safe.”
  6. Please be gentle with yourself as this process may bring up painful or intense feelings. Ask for support from a friend, counselor or EFT practitioner.

Simply choose one of these processes to include in your daily self-care practice and notice how you are feeling physically and emotionally over the days and weeks as you practice. My experience with this is that I begin to feel much lighter, clearer, more relaxed and joyful quite soon.